Settling Down Instead of Settling For Less

When it comes to having a family I rather the old fashion way like getting married then having a baby. Not saying its a must but if you’re having a baby with the right person why not make it last and raise your child together. Now a days everyone is just having babies after babies and that’s all. I’m writing this because I go to several baby showers a year and no weddings. Isn’t there something wrong with that picture?? I rather see everyone doing good and living a happy life then seeing them alone, sad with no father for their child. If the guy or girl is not worth marrying then having a baby makes no sense either!

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Lost & Found…Miracles Do Happen

May made a year since I found my father after 19 years! For years I wondered where he was why he left and when I would find him. Years went  by and I started to work at the same place my mother and father met and people would ask me about my father and I had no answers for them. So again I began to search and I discovered he had a wife, I continued my search for this lady in the white pages and I found out more about her whereabouts. When I found her info on the computer I saw she had a Facebook so nervously I wrote her a message about who I am and I believe her husband is my father. After I sent her the message it had been 2 days and no reply so I figured maybe I got the wrong person but May 31st she replied and changed my life. So she began to express how she always heard about me from my father and how he looked but couldn’t locate me and that he was in jail for 11 years for an unfortunate misunderstanding. Right away she gave me his address to write him and I did so fast, I had no reason to wait so I mailed that letter off. I also found out that I have several brothers, sisters and im so excited to meet them soon. Days later I get a phone call from my Dad it was so nerve wrecking but amazing. We talked on the phone several times and its like we never lost touch,we are so much alike that its scary. He informed me that he will be getting out the summer of 2011 and that made me so happy. I’m looking forward to meeting my father and everyone else later on this year.

If anyone else out there is looking for a loved one whether it’s a mother, father, sister etc… Don’t give up they may still be some where looking for you but can’t find you. I’m here to help anyone that cant do it on their own don’t be afraid just go for it cause your never know unless you try.

XoXo Agirl

Upside Down Inside Out (mommy post)

So you have a baby and you didn’t expect your life to do a complete 360 degree turn did you? Well me either! First of all I didn’t like being pregnant at all but more power to the ladies that do, I just felt like a completely diffident person.  Anyway so you think your going to have this little cute bundle of joy and the baby will laugh, sleep and play. Ooooooh no it was more like I need sleep, I look like a zombie, I never care about me anymore. Don’t get me wrong babies are a blessing and they are one of the greatest gifts but it’s so not easy. Trying to balance a normal life and be a good and organized mom is one of the hardest jobs in THE WORLD trust me and if you’re a mom you can relate. Just face it and realize that your life will never be the same again. Somethings will change for good like going out with friends as often as you use to, your work Schedule my change, doing things at the drop of a dime will definitely not happen anymore. Most things need to be thought about and planned when children are involved. Never expect your friends and companions that don’t have kids to understand what its like to be in your shoes.   There is always going to be that one friend or family member that will have so much to say and have no idea what its like to be a parent and its very annoying but I guess they just want to help. While on the inside your screaming for them to shut their yap so you wont strangle them Lol. Yea so being a parent isn’t what you thought it would be like but it does teach you so many lessons and things you never pictured yourself doing would amaze you! You will have your patience tested day after day, you will realize your stronger, a problem solver, a builder. I know you didn’t think you had all that in you before you became a parent. Becoming a parent isn’t a horrible thing at all,  just make sure you are in a good space in your life and you are ready to give it your all and everything will be fine.